Safe Space Coaching

I'm Emily, founder of Safe Space Coaching.

I have experienced my own challenges in life and relationships, and have learnt from this.

Over the last 20 years I have helped other people to face into the things they feel they need to and transform.

I know from all this how we keep ourselves stuck. I understand the science behind how we change and the practical reality of how we can unblock our own patterns.

This is a passion of mine to help people create the lives they want. I'm excited to help you with this!

My past

I spent many years of my life clueless about myself. I thought I was completely in control and fine although I knew life wasn’t what I thought it would be. I didn’t feel happy and satisfied. I hadn't ticked the boxes I felt I should have.

I found romantic relationships hard. Both the process of finding a partner and then being happy with them. There were arguments and disconnection. I struggled to understand how to support them. I would try to love them and still things weren't right.

I could see fault in other people but didn’t understand my part in what I was experiencing.

I would make decisions that were not right for me. Then feel confused about why things didn't work how I expected them to.

I experienced illness and would push through it. My body was becoming exhausted.

I didn't know any other way to be. I was tough on myself and tough on others.

I told myself I didn't live in the past without realising I was actually carrying around every pain I had ever felt.

How it changed for me

I started to have experiences that helped me see my world was not set in stone. There were different answers.

Firstly on the physical level - I had sickness in my animals where western medicine couldn’t help. I had to go down “alternative” paths and much to my surprise, I helped them to heal.

By chance I joined an organisation that encouraged me to see outside my limited thinking of the world. They encouraged me to connect more deeply with myself. See that what we accept as fact is often not.

They sent me on a course in NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming). I started to see the power of our mind and how we can transform our lives. Learning some clever tools to help us cut through the noise.

I discovered Louise Hay – author of Heal Your Life and an amazing coach. This happened at a time when I had lost a child in pregnancy, my long term relationship was breaking down, and my body was burnt out (again). I was diagnosed with supposedly incurable auto immune conditions.

By facing into my stuff from the past I was able to cure myself of a condition the medical specialists said was incurable.

I then went on a course in Ontological Coaching which further built on the connection between mind, body, and emotions.

We hold things in our body and we can change how we feel with our body. If we change the thoughts we have, this can change the experiences we have.

I coached people and saw the different tricks we use to stop ourselves from changing. Even when we say we really want to, sometimes we just don't seem to be able to.

What I know now

I understand the biology behind how we change and why it can feel so hard for us, even when we’re on the right path.

I know how to tell the difference between when a decision is wrong for us, and when it’s right but we block ourselves.

I know the science behind how the stress we feel can cause physical issues in our body. How if we face into the things that are stuck for us, we can resolve even supposedly incurable physical symptoms.

I understand how the stories and beliefs we carry around with us every day determine the life we have now.

There are different answers for everyone and we all know ourselves better than anyone else ever will.

Given the right support in a safe space we all have the power to uncover our blocks and change our life.

"Whether you think you can, or you think you can't — you're right" (Henry Ford)

Methodologies

I adapt my approach to find what works best for each person, and in doing so utilise a wide variety of tools and techniques.

Approaches I use include among others:

- Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) - licenced practioner

- Ontological Coaching - level 2

- Heal Your Life

- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)

- Change Management